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Think Before You Pet: How to Properly Greet and Pet Dogs
As dog lovers, it’s easy to assume that all dogs enjoy being petted and fussed over. But the truth is, not every dog feels the same way, and even the most well-meaning person can accidentally make a dog uncomfortable.
Whether you’re meeting a new dog or even interacting with one you know well, there’s a right way to approach them that ensures everyone stays safe and happy. Let’s dive into the common mistakes we make when greeting dogs, how to avoid them, and tips for giving dogs the affection they’ll genuinely enjoy.
Common Mistakes People Make When Greeting Dogs
Even as a professional dog walker, I’ve made some of these mistakes in the past (and luckily, everything turned out okay). But these errors can sometimes lead to a dog feeling stressed, scared, or even defensive—and sadly, the dog often gets blamed for our actions.
Here are some common mistakes we’ve all been guilty of at one point:
- Skipping the Owner’s Permission
Never assume it’s okay to approach a dog without asking their owner first. It’s a common mistake, but some dogs may be nervous, recovering from an injury, or simply not in the mood to be approached. - Patting Their Head
Placing your hand over or on top of a dog’s head can feel threatening to them. It’s better to avoid this entirely. - Invading Their Space
Leaning your face close to a dog’s face and cooing something like, “Oh, you’re so cute!” may seem harmless, but it can be overwhelming for the dog. - Making Direct Eye Contact
While humans see eye contact as a friendly gesture, dogs can interpret it as a challenge or threat. - Approaching from Behind
Sneaking up on a dog and rubbing their back might startle them, especially if they don’t hear you coming. - Crowding a Relaxing Dog
If a dog is lying down quietly, crouching over them with outstretched arms can feel intimidating. - Assuming All Dogs Love You
Not every dog will feel the same about strangers even if you adore dogs. Some may be shy, nervous, or uninterested in meeting new people.
Would you admit to making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t worry—you’re not alone. The good news is that with some awareness, we can all be better at greeting dogs in a way that respects their comfort and boundaries.
How to Greet a Dog Correctly
Meeting a dog correctly starts with understanding their comfort levels and respecting their boundaries. Here’s a step-by-step guide to ensure your interactions are safe and positive:
- Ask the Owner First
Always, always ask the owner before approaching a dog. If they say no, respect their wishes. The dog may be anxious, recovering from an illness, or not in the mood for interaction. - Pay Attention to Yellow Signals
Seeing a dog wearing something yellow (like a ribbon or coat) is often a signal to give them space. The Yellow Dog Project highlights this as a way to indicate dogs who need extra distance. - Avoid Direct Approaches
Never walk straight up to a dog or reach out to touch them immediately. Instead, stand sideways, keeping your posture relaxed and non-threatening. - Let the Dog Make the First Move
Allow the dog to approach you. If they seem curious and relaxed, you can slowly offer your hand for them to sniff. - Mind Your Eye Contact
Avoid making direct eye contact. Dogs may see this as a sign of aggression. Instead, keep your gaze soft and relaxed. - Squat Down to Their Level
Squatting to the dog’s height rather than bending over them makes you appear less intimidating. - Speak Softly
Use a calm and friendly tone when talking to the dog. Sudden or high-pitched noises can startle them. - Pet in Safe Areas
Once the dog seems comfortable, avoid patting their head. Instead, stroke their shoulders, chest, or the base of their neck—areas where they’re more likely to feel at ease.
Remember, if the dog backs away or shows signs of stress (like yawning, licking its lips, or tucking its tail), stop what you’re doing and give it space.
Where Do Dogs Like to Be Petted?
Most dogs have their favourite spots for a good pet or scratch. Common areas they enjoy include:
- The base of the neck.
- Shoulders and chest.
- Under the chin.
- The base of the tail.
While these are general favourites, every dog is different. Please pay attention to their reactions and adjust accordingly. On the flip side, dogs generally dislike being touched on their paws, ears, tail, or muzzle.
Always stroke in the direction their fur grows to soothe them. Petting should be a relaxing activity for both you and the dog.
Things to Avoid When Petting a Dog
Even with the best intentions, some actions can make dogs uncomfortable or agitated. Here’s what to avoid:
When Not to Pet a Dog
For everyone’s safety, there are certain times when you should never pet a dog:
- When They’re Behind a Fence or Chained Up: These situations can make a dog feel trapped and defensive.
- When They’re Barking or Growling: This signals the dog is uncomfortable or agitated.
- Without Permission: Always check with the owner, especially if the dog is on a lead.
The Bottom Line
Like humans, dogs have boundaries and preferences. By taking the time to approach and pet them correctly, we can create positive interactions that leave both the dog and the human feeling happy and relaxed.
As a professional dog walker, I’ve seen firsthand how respecting a dog’s comfort level can make all the difference. So next time you meet a dog, think before you pet—and watch how much more rewarding the experience becomes.